To be concerned with what people say or think of you is a total waste of time. You have to remember that people will always have something to say or think about you. It could be negative or positive. People will judge you by how you talk, walk, dress or carry yourself around. You cannot escape from that, it is a reality you have to accept. While positive talks can be uplifting, negative talks can have a lasting and damaging effect on others. Wise people may choose to reserve their negative comments and keep it to themselves. Others will be quick to make comments and remarks even when they don’t know you very well. There are others still who may have heard a lot about you even before they met you in person, and so they base their judgements on heresies.
Haven’t you heard people during a conversation saying ; I heard this and that about so and so. Yes, they heard and chose to believe it before establishing the real facts or truth. They in turn base their opinion on that and they pass their opinion to others who also do the same. The problem with this is; fabricated stories can appear true when everybody have chosen to believe in it. All this is caused by gossip. Be aware of gossipers and avoid them if you want peace. Gossip has caused a lot of heartaches and break ups in relationships with families and friends. You have to remember that some people are out their to tarnish your name and they will try by all means possible to do that. This could be out of pure jealousy or envy but their goal is to make others dislike you. They may be jealous of your success, progress, your beauty, your happiness and for the fact that others love you can make them envious of you.
This is the reason why you should steer clear of people who gossips too much about others. Yes gossip! it betrays confidence. Proverbs 11:13 A gossip betrays confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret. Most problems we have today are caused by gossipers, people who cannot hold their tongues, people when you share with them your issues they cant wait to share with everybody. Lack of trustworthiness. What I have discovered in life is most gossipers have nothing important to talk about. They are small talkers. They cannot talk about how to make progress in life, they are betrayers, full of negativity. They rarely notice the good things in others. All they see is what is wrong with others or what is going wrong. Don’t be drawn into that trail of gossip. Before you know you will have mastered the art of gossip. It may be very hard if you are used to listening to gossip. Gossip is sweet, it tickles our ears, we are so eager to hear who did what, who broke up with who. Proverbs 18:8 The words of a gossip are like choice morsels that go down to the innermost being. Proverbs 16:28: A perverse person stirs up conflict and a gossip separates close friends. I have noticed that any time I ever allowed myself to listen to gossip, I found myself saying something I wouldn’t have wanted to say, sometimes even regretting why I said it. If you hang out with gossipers you will become one of them, after all, “birds of the same feather flock together”.
If you want peace in your life, stop being bothered by what others think or say about you. You know yourself better than them. They only know what they see or hear about you. Learn to mind your business and stay away from idlers and gossipers or people who talk too much.